How to Survive a Bad Boss 148
Lam1969 writes "Computerworld has a three-page spread on how to deal with bad bosses. A common type is "the overgrown technologist who gets rewarded for brilliant technical work by being promoted to a position for which he's not qualified." Another type reported by a reader is the boss who's in over their head. The article says some bosses can be "fixed," but at other times it's better to hunker down or cover your ass so the bad boss can find other targets."
In Summary (Score:4, Insightful)
I believe a common scenario is some people have bad boss, and they just live with it and see who retires first.
Re:In Summary (Score:4, Interesting)
The article seems to focus on the "overgrown technologist", seems he's the kind of boss that will go away in 6 months to a year and be happier for it; a better article would be how to deal with an abusive boss that upper management likes. They are often blind to the negative impact a boss like this can have on an organization.
Re:In Summary (Score:3, Interesting)
Absolutely true. I left a company that I worked for after six years because the new boss insisted on doing things his way or everyone can take the highway. (Not that his way was any better than the normal way.) Upper management loved him since he got the numbers in no matter how many people he stepped on in the process. I was the third person out of a dozen senior staff members who left during the first year of the n
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-matthew
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When I left the company, I had worked 12-hour days for 28 days straight because my boss demanded it. Never mind that the company policy say that I should only work six days a week and HR was looking the other way when I complained about the situation. That's being "stepped on" while getting the numbers.
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Don't forget that this is the video game industry where there are tons of high school graduates who would die for the opportunity to get paid to "play" video games 12 hours/7 days a week. Besides, I was a marked man anyway. I was in my 30's, had a personal life and I
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What about simply not doing what is not acceptable?
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Oh, you mean being fired for insubordination? I decided to leave after I got a warning for insubordination over a trivial issue. As my boss told me, his way or the highway. After being there for six years, I didn't need to take this crap.
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You can't be fired for refusing to do something that is not covered by your contract.
Sure, it is my job to do the work that I'm assigned to do, as it is specified in the contract. But it's also part of the job of your boss not to assign more work to you than can be done in the regular hours, at least not steadily. In Germany, this is even covered by law (duty of care).
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Otherwise known as at will employment. But even though the contract says "any reason", federal law spells out several reasons you can't be fired for. A lawsuit alledging someone was really fired for one of those reasons can be a pain, so HR usually want a good solid reason for firing before they'll let you fire anyone.
RE Bad Boss (Score:5, Insightful)
Like it or not you can be the best (fill in the blank: engineer, developer etc) and still be an awful manager...
On a related note, in one of my first jobs, I was yelled at for not stapling reports with the staple at a 45 degree angle to the side of the sheets.
Re:RE Bad Boss (Score:4, Interesting)
I told him that if he really wanted me to, I'd do it, and do my best at it, but that it would most likely be a "disaster of biblical proportions". Yes, I actually used that exact phrase. I told him that I'm well aware of my limitations, and that it would be a good idea for someone else to take the position. Luckily for me and for him, he listened to me then.
Re:RE Bad Boss (Score:3, Insightful)
What they fail to see is what I see every day: I do not work well with others. I hate being interrupted with phone calls, emails, people dropping by, and I don't like being responsible for what other people do. I generally don't like people at all, to tell you the truth. They're anno
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If you want to hire a manager, get someone who has a management degree. There's whole colleges for exactly that, where they teach people how to be managers. Sure, they're not technically competent, but a good manager doesn't need to be since he won't be doing any technical work; he can learn what he needs on the job from his technical employees, and defer to them whenever there's a questi
Re:RE Bad Boss (Score:2)
What programmer likes being interrupted? None of them. But with you for a manager, at least I'd have a sympathetic ear towards non-random meeting schedule times and perhaps an office environment that minimized interruptions. Do you know what kind of loyalty you could get out of your coding team by simply understanding the work they do, how they do it, and what would make their
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Also, we're putting cover sheets on our TPS reports now. Did you not see the memo? I'm going to go ahead and get you another copy of that memo.
Re:RE Bad Boss (Score:3, Insightful)
Spot on. People who want to be good managers will be good managers, and as we all know, there is a severe shortage of good managers in IT.
Management can be learnt. Sure, some personalities are more suited to it than others, and some people have a more natural flair for management, but in the end, its a set of skills. The biggest point is "do you want t
Re:RE Bad Boss (Score:3, Insightful)
You're obviously not a manager. It is hard for us to find employees. So, a manager who runs people off because of their stapling technique will dealing with the much more serious problem of new employees who don't know the job yet. Hmmm... which one is going to affect Q1 re
Works for large companies... (Score:5, Insightful)
It's all very well saying "focus on the work", but the whole problem with bad bosses is they won't let you do that, whether it's by micromanaging you, constantly interrupting you, forcing you to change technical decisions, or just plain giving you the wrong work to do. I'd rather have a boss call me names every lunch break than a boss who seems friendly but fucks things up when I'm trying to work.
Work for small companies... (Score:5, Insightful)
Generally at small companies you can be on much better terms with everyone, be friendly with everyone you work with and you can resolve issues instead of ignoring them or hiding from them like this article suggests. I've worked for a number of small companies, and have been fortunate that each of them has been a wonderful experience, and the people I worked with have all been team-focused and aware that if a team isn't working well together, that's going to be a great hinderance to the success of the business.
On the other hand, there's always a feeling of inertia around large companies. That your co-workers are just the people you run into at work and shouldn't be anything else. A bad boss can get away with how they are because they only worry about how their superiors see them, and then could always fire you on a whim if they wanted should they feel threatened.
Re:Work for small companies... (Score:3, Interesting)
There is no boss worse than the boss's kid, if s/he hasn't been brought up through the ranks properly. I've experienced this (straight to V.P. 6 months after finishing college), and it's by far been the worst boss to work for. The company owner was an amazing boss, but his children just didn't seem to have a hot clue about anything. You can't just plop someone in a desk with the attitude of "I'll own this someday, so everyone should listen to me".
I was in this
Re:Work for small companies... (Score:5, Interesting)
Generally at small companies you can be on much better terms with everyone, be friendly with everyone you work with and you can resolve issues instead of ignoring them or hiding from them like this article suggests.
Keep in mind, though, that this is only true if your boss is a reasonably rational person. Small companies are owned and dominated by entrepreneurs, who are often eccentric enough that true nutjobs can fairly easily hide within their ranks. I've worked for some doozies.
Lessee, I worked for one guy who never worried about the flaws in his business plan (which, granted, were not obvious to the casual observer) because he'd had a vision from God that told him his company must succeed because he was doing God's work. He was smart enough to keep his mouth shut about this claim, but when one of my coworkers found some papers describing his vision, many things made a great deal more sense to us. I wonder if God also told him to buy his daughter a new car with the month's payroll budget (all of it!)...
Another guy I worked for suckered a normally shrewd businessman (David Neeleman, CEO and founder of Jet Blue) into starting an Internet business back in the mid 90's. Each of them put up $500K... but after a few months Neeleman realized that his supposed partner was penniless, and he had blown most of Neeleman's $500K on extremely expensive hardware. Not only did the nutjob (and he was CRAZY) extort some more cash out of Neeleman to make him go away... shortly afterward the office building BURNED TO THE GROUND, with all of that expensive hardware inside -- except that investigators could find no remains of the hardware. Everyone knew what must have happened, but there was no proof. I personally looked through the remains of my office and found what was obviously the case of the ~$2K PC, but no remnants at all of the ~$15K SGI workstation that had been sitting right next to it.
I had another boss who was basically a good guy, but was just unable to handle the stress when his business didn't go well. Since he'd put everything he had into it, he got very, very stressed out when it looked like it was going to fail, and he took it out on everyone who wasn't working more than he was (and he was only sleeping like four hours per night).
I've also worked for some really great small-company bosses. My experience with small companies is that, on average, they're no better and no worse than big companies. But the standard deviation is much, much larger.
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Personally, I've only had three real corporate experiences myself:
1) A small company where all of management was rotten.
2) A small company where all of management was wonderful.
3) A large company where a few managers are great but most are rotten.
In my experience (and based on my friends' tales), in a small business you either get all horrible managers or mostly great managers. There'
Getting promoted to your incompetence level (Score:5, Interesting)
My father used to be a Dale Carnegie Course [amazon.com] instructor and always talks about workers getting promoted to their level of incompetence. The basic theory in a huge unchecked corporate environment is that when a worker starts doing their job too well they get promoted as a reward for their hard work. When they learn their new job and start doing that job too well they get promoted again. Eventually they get promoted to just above their incompetence level and spend the rest of their lives floundering as a middle manager getting made fun of by their subordinates.
Re:Getting promoted to your incompetence level (Score:5, Informative)
talks about workers getting promoted to their level of incompetence.
That's called The Peter Principle [google.ca]
How about just raising their salary? (Score:2)
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-- The Peter Principle [wikipedia.org]
A bad boss... (Score:5, Insightful)
Re:A bad boss... (Score:2)
As a contractor (I'm fulltime now) I had all sorts of bad bosses. One in particular used to pick on anyone who disagreed with him, and try to rally the rest of the team on his side and against said employee. It got to the point where the disagreer wasn't invited to the group lunches, and just made very uncomfortable.
This guy would rather ruin someones career as well, rather than fire or transfer them out. At one point, I was the target, even though I'd seen the cause/result relat
Re:A bad boss... (Score:2)
There should be a choice on the ballot - "None of the above" - and if that gets the most votes, the position gets filled by a national lottery - someone is chosen completely at random.
Now who would YOU trust more as prime minister, or to steal less - a career politician, or some Joe Blow or Jane Doe chosen at random.
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Easy (Score:3, Funny)
Just don't go to work. That's what I did when I had a bad boss. He was so bad I went about a year turning up only once in a while when I felt like it. Eventually I left and did something else - I don't think he ever found out. He was well on the road to a caffine + stress induced heart attack so it was probably best that I just kept out the way.
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(Sorry, required Office Space Reference)
The answer is simple (Score:5, Insightful)
Just last week I was diagnosed with two partially-healed ulcers. A stomach problem over the holidays (read: bleeding) prompted me to go to the doctor. I'd been putting it off for 2 years after parting ways with a particularly nasty job that had an overabundance of office politics. My working life since then has been peaches and cream compared to what it was back then. I now have the best job I've ever had. Yet I still have two ulcers that have not yet healed themselves.
Bad bosses cause bad working environments. You do not want to be around either. Move up or move out. It's that simple. The job market is better than you think.
Re:The answer is simple (Score:3, Interesting)
Bad bosses cause bad working environments. You do not want to be around either. Move up or move out. It's that simple. The job market is better than you think.
Amen to that. Another thing to consider though is if you're putting in 60-80 hours a week at a job that you hate, quitting and taking a new job may provide you with quite a bit of free time that you probably never knew you had as well.
Linin' Large! (Score:5, Insightful)
Yes, of course, because we're all foot-lose and fancy-free, we all work because if we didn't we'd all just sleep all day, and jobs just come along! But seriously, for the vast majority of people out there, this is not really a realistic option. Usually, personal situations like family with children prevent it, but there could be many other things. Economically, most people today live a few paychecks away from living on the street, and might as well be indentured servants. This is why it simply is not uncommon for people in our society to snap and kill a few people on the way out the door. Bad bosses should not be the problem of the worked bee; it should be management's problem, that's why the "professionals" in Human Resources make the big bucks, right?
Re:Linin' Large! (Score:2)
You who can't quit and who let that fact sli
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DING DING DING! Someone give them a cookie! (Score:3, Insightful)
Sure, we could "afford" the huge house, BMW, boat, hot tub, vacatio
Mod parent "financially responsible" (Score:2)
It's better, though, to use credit responsibly, so you can buy the house of your dreams some day. Real estate (the only true wealth, which is why it's "real", get it?) is going to require credit history for most of us. So, follow this easy rule:
If any of your credit cards is carrying a balance (that is, if any card is not PAID IN FULL at the end of the month) do not use credit for any reason. If you are starving you sh
It's a perfect reaction. Quit. (Score:3, Interesting)
Quote from www.QuitYourJobDay.com:
The prevailing view is that you need a job to survive and that you need the job more than the employer needs you. What most people don't know, and those who profit from your skill and effort certainly don't want you to hear, is that your employer needs you to survive as well.
Do you really think there are less jobs than there are people? Do you really think you can't quit? Right
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The answer is to quit once you've landed another job and explain why you're leaving in your exit interview.
Attempting to fix the dick above you is a worthless, thankless, soul-raping task and no-one with an ounce of sense will do it.
I tried it once... draw your own conclusions.
Justin.
Re:Linin' Large! (Score:2)
I agrre to a point. When it's time to go, if they don't understand why you are leaving, why WASTE any of your time tellijng them all about it? Realistically, they know what's up and don't think it's an issue, and if it's a problem it's YOUR problem. That's why they allow it to exist. Fuck 'em. Get a new job, walk out the door, and never look back. Toss a lit match on the floor as you leave.
Re:Linin' Large! (Score:2)
I like your style... however I will be citing you in the case for the defence ;-)
Justin.
Re:The answer is simple (Score:2)
One reason why people endure bad bosses: switching jobs can cause loss of benefits like health insurance. Many people are encountering "job lock," a reluctance to change jobs for fear of losing their current health insurance. I've been there.
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Re:The answer is simple (Score:3, Informative)
When Australian researcher Barry Marshall, MBBS, first suggested in the early 1980s that stomach ulcers were caused by the bacteria Helicobacter pylori, he was nearly laughed off the stage at an international infectious disease conference. But 20 years later, H pylori is acknowledged as the chief cause of peptic ulcers, and antibiotics are their preferred tr
Re:The answer is simple (Score:3, Informative)
Stress does not cause ulcers. That's one of those pers
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Re:The answer is simple (Score:3, Insightful)
Doesn't work. No one believes they are an asshole. If you want to make an impact before you leave, you need to tell others, preferably his peers or bosses. But the asshole in question then will try to smear you in defence. Best of all is to get some documtented proof of unsavoury, preferably illegal, practices and distribute that to the relevant authorities. But you may still have to overcome the "disgruntled emp
BOFH (Score:3, Funny)
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Perhaps I am misunderstanding the question... (Score:4, Funny)
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Easy (Score:2)
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Also, when you do, tell them what you really think of them. Its cheaper than therapy.
Apt Aphorism (Score:2, Insightful)
-- Lawrence Peters
not easy to avoid, not easy to appease (Score:5, Informative)
The problem with "bosses" is they come from the same base as everyone else. My experience has been and continues to be, for any discipline, less than 5% or so of players in that discipline truly know how and what they're doing.
That leaves the temperament and maturity of a "boss" as the essence with which you must deal. I had always been pretty lucky with managers and had good working relations with all but the last -- who turned out to be a little Nazi... He cared more about his image, and less about the work his team produced. He cultivated an "always busy" look for his group, but they produced far less with far less quality than other groups around us.
I constantly took him and the team to task for their hubris, and faux work facade, and became unpopular with Mr. Boss.
I rolled the dice at a bad time, it was at the same time IT decided to lay off 20% of the work force, and I had curried no favors to better my chances with this goonie. I don't know had I been a kiss-ass with him I would have fared better, but I was part of the 20% (after a illustrious 21 years with this company) let go.
Bottom line: in today's world, there isn't much you can do if you want to stand on priniciple -- unless you're lucky enough to have landed a great boss who knows what he or she is doing -- there aren't many of them. It's a shame and a crime when the truth, as stated in the article, is:
It's probably one reason so many things are fucked today -- it's probably one of the reasons things like DRM even manages to get any traction -- it's probably why half the decisions being made are done so because of money under the table.This is my story (Score:3, Informative)
Re:This is my story (Score:2)
I've heard of this before. One of my Novell instructors (3.1, what? 20 years ago?) told us a story of a sysadmin who explored around his bank's files and discovered what everyone was paid. He broadcast this, was chastized for it, but the
Re:This is my story (Score:2)
Or archive off his porn stash; personal emails, resume; etc. I took a couple of weeks after I'd been offered a better job to put my affairs in order before I walked out. I spent most of my time finishing jobs that could be finished, putting files in order and generally clearing my desk (my boss might have become suspicious at how neat things became if he ever paid any notice to m
I Am A Horrible Boss (Score:5, Insightful)
Technically, I'm gifted. I can analyse a situation and come up with a solution almost immediately, often without a full grasp of how I arrived at the answer. That is where the problem lies. I don't have the patience to explain things to people, and I get frustrated when they don't "get it" as quickly as I do.
I don't want to be the boss, but my bosses keep trying to put people under me. Just let me work, pay me, and I'll make sure your network is safe and secure, and runs 24/7. Just don't give me direct reports. It just makes them miserable, and me a nervous wreck. Don't blame me when they quit six months from now because I'm a bad boss, because I told you up front that I was.
Quit trying to promote me. I know you want to retain me, but why not just remove the arbitrary salary caps per job classification and give me the salary I deserve without having to tie it to "management". Keeping the auditors happy is justification enough for the 10% raise you gave me this year. Sarbanes Oxley and GBLA is a bitch, and I manage the IT side of it for you. You've never once had a bad audit. Isn't that alone worth paying me what it takes to keep me without saddling me with arbitrating personality conflicts, managing vacation schedules, keeping track of overtime, and all the other petty bullshit that goes along with having "underlings"?
Don't you get it?
Re:I Am A Horrible Boss (Score:5, Informative)
If your technical skills are that good, find a company that knows what to do with them.
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Beyond a certain point, promotion within a technical career track is usually based
Re:I Am A Horrible Boss (Score:5, Insightful)
I think this mindset is caused by the fact that the people in charge- aka the management- did not see spending their life dealing directly with technology as rewarding and fulfilling and from their first day on the job had an eye on the corner office. Technology companies have a better understanding of technologists and accordingly have much better promotion paths for those not wanting to manage people.
*Well maybe only first in the sense that the Model-T was the first car, but close enough.
Re:I Am A Horrible Boss (Score:3, Interesting)
Re:I Am A Horrible Boss (Score:3, Interesting)
It's like anything - learn it. Learn how to do it well. And stop complaining.
Tech-heads complain because people can't figure how to program a VCR. And quite rightly - it's a piece of piss. But non-techs decide in advance: "I can't do this", when all they really need to think is: "Ok, this device has been designed to make it easy to achieve common functions. Look at the buttons, interpret the symbols, keep trying untill you figure it out..."
It's the same with management, just do it.
Re:I Am A Horrible Boss (Score:3, Informative)
I'm sorry, but that's a load of bollocks.
Have you ever heard of "talent"? Some people are naturally good at some things and naturally bad at others. Different people have different talents.
If you are tone deaf, no amount of practice will ever make a worthwhile violinist out of you, because you
Re:I Am A Horrible Boss (Score:3, Insightful)
While there are manuals for managing people, none of them can really help you get over the fact that you just may not know how to work with people well. IT peoples aren't exactly known for their great socializing skills. I know I could do it, but I also know several people in the industry that would not make good managers. They are very introverted, and don't like talking to people. While they could go through the motions, that doesn't mean they would be very good at it.
I f
Re:I Am A Horrible Boss (Score:2)
Maybe I need a frustration-management self help course
Re:I Am A Horrible Boss (Score:2)
or bankrobber, embezeller or poodle torturer.
Just because you have the ability to do something doesn't mean that you want to, nor that you should.
He may very well make a good manager, but that doesn't mean that he has any compulsion to move his career in that path.
Re:I Am A Horrible Boss (Score:2, Interesting)
People are reasonably easy to understand. Just provide them with the tools they need to do their job and a direction to follow. Then check in on them from time to time to make sure they are heading where you want them to. This is the hard part. TRUST THEM. Yes, every now and again they will stuff up, but give them space to do that and then the encouragement to have another g
Top-down vs. bottom-up (Score:5, Interesting)
promoting people to there highest level of incompetents !
As long as they do a good job they get promoted
and then they get stock in a position where they don't do well.
The way to solve this is to use a bottom-up organization and make every employee
stock holders.
In at bottom-up organization the project group chose there own project manager.
The project manager chose a department manager and etc. to the top.
But every member can challenges his manager for his position,
and then the group vote between the 2 candidates.
It is all described in detail on
http://www.thenewagesite.com/jjdewey/molecular/bu
Re:Top-down vs. bottom-up (Score:2)
One thing that I have always wondered about this would be whether it would reduce or increase the level of politics in an organisation. The parallels between this and a modern 'democratic' voting societies appear fairly close.
Eg, if I want to be that project manager, I start to curry favours with other project members. Maybe I start offering concessions, or institute policies that benefit those members. Maybe it's a flat out
Re:Top-down vs. bottom-up (Score:2)
I say, keep trying (Score:3)
Remember that you're smarter than he is, and that only by persevering can you defeat all the bosses and rescue the princess, or whatever. But if you quit playing, then he's won.
Re:I say, keep trying (Score:3, Insightful)
I once had a bad boss..... (Score:2)
Or you could HELP? (Score:2)
Suggest in a question what you think needs to be done and in a way that helps the "bad" boss see what the right path is without denigrating him/her. "Hey, I was wondering if you thought using a temp to do this work over here might free up atar performer alpha to do the harder work instead of this grunt work? I'm probably missing something but I don't see the downside. What do you think?"
Nah, better to be a "bad e
Most people leave their boss, not their company (Score:3, Interesting)
Re:Do what they do... (Score:3, Funny)
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Re:If democracy is so great .... (Score:5, Interesting)
The problem with corporate cronyism is that a large number of boards are made up of the largest investors or are close friends with the largest investors. Thus, the elite voters are close to the people being elected. This has trended towards a pattern of corruption in every single social group that has allowed elite voting rights.
If you want to investigate a democratic model of company management, look into syndicalism. Of course, nothing's perfect and syndicalism has a lot of flaws such as a lack of strong profit motive to keep the company alive and management being based on popularity and charisma instead of capability. (A truly meritocratic model of corporate governance simply doesn't exist and cannot exist due to the impossibility of objectively determining merit.)
Then again, even in a democratically run company, I still feel that publicly traded companies cannot have a higher ethical goal in the long run since the majority of shareholders will always have profit as their primary motive. That's a topic for a different discussion, though.
Re:yelling (Score:2)
Once you distill complaints down to the raw facts of the matter, its really very hard for people to take offense at them. I find most problems with people complaining is they are angry when they do it and dont t